5 Morning Wishes To Start (or Restart) Your Day

Can you make Morning Wishes a part of your day?

I recently came up with a simple list of Morning Wishes that I could make when I am feeling particularly in need of feeling at peace with my day.

Recently, I woke up completely discombobulated.  I could tell I was not myself at all right from the moment my feet hit the floor.  I had been awakened many times during the night with my mind out of sorts.  Random thoughts were coming.  Bad dreams or at least the feeling of the leftovers of a bad dream.  Too hot in the night…and then, of course, too cold.  Dog sounds waking me.  A car racing in the night down the street.

When I awoke, I felt disgruntled and not well-rested.  I was grumpy.

It’s not as though I haven’t felt grumpy before in my life.  Very rare, though, for me though, is to feel this out of sorts upon waking.

I tried to lie back down and say my affirmations.  I was half-hearted…I admit.

I thought a glass of water would help.  I sat quietly on my own.  I slowly drank down the water and felt a little better…but I was agitated.

I spoke particularly carefully.  I was cheery…if you can’t be happy then fake it until you feel happy.

Out to the garden for some therapy.  Coffee in hand, I headed out to my urban sanctuary. My little piece of verdant heaven.  I sat, listening for bird song.  I breathed.  I sat.

Grumpy.

I asked myself to choose an activity that would help to bring me back to peace.

For some crazy reason, everything I chose was making me more irritated.  I tried blogging and ran into nothing but technical difficulties (4 hour delays to fix the problem kind of difficulties).  A craft activity that I was trying to finish went out the door so I headed to the craft store to work it out.  Got home with renewed excitement and dashed again.  On and on, all day long, I seemed to be blundering along at everything I tried.

Ugh! What a day!

I decided, for the next day to have a hope at getting off on the right track, I would write myself a list of 5 Morning Wishes to get my mind set on a better path.

5 Morning Wishes
5 Wishes

I hope they can help you too…if you are ever having the kind of day when you just wake up grumpy.

Love Ingrid x

The end of my day was much better….maybe just writing the list made all the difference.

 

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Childhood Antics!

Antics with my brother were always good for a laugh.  I laughed a lot as a girl growing up cause he was a veritable comedian.  He really knew how to make my mom laugh and some of those memories are etched in my mind.

Take time over the next few days to share a few of your most cherished childhood memories.  Retelling stories from happy times in the past have been scientifically proven to raise your oxytocin (that’s the feel good hormone) and increase your sense of wellbeing.

We’re almost half way through our Gratitude Challenge!

Love Ingrid x

#junegratitude

 

 

6 Steps to Becoming Enough

I wear beaded bracelets most of the time.  I particularly love ones made of natural beads, there is something tangible for me of connecting to the elements that comes with bracelets made of lava rock or rose quartz. I first fell in love with these bracelets when I would visit temples in Japan.  I lived there for close to 15 years and visited many temples in my travels.

When I began to study Yoga, too, I found that I was attracted to beads, malas, and bracelets for the purpose of meditation.  I could quietly roll the beads between my fingers when I wanted to bring my thoughts back to centre.  When I felt uncomfortable with my environment, I could think back to my feelings of calm and peace by tapping into the various beads on my bracelet.

I learned, during a workshop on mindfulness, that you can make a practice of positive self-talk by using a bracelet.

This is how it goes:

  1. Place a bracelet on your wrist.
  2. When you hear your inner voice using negative self-talk, when you hear yourself berating a mistake you have made, you move the bracelet to a different hand.
  3. Each time you have a thought that is harming to yourself, you move the bracelet becoming aware of the thought that brought you to move the item.
  4. The first few days, you just let it naturally happen, and mentally take note of the number of times you have to change hands.
  5. Once you are in the habit of this, you make a conscious effort to change the inner language that you use so that you are changing the bracelet fewer and fewer times a day.
  6. Your goal, of course, is to eventually leave the bracelet alone as you learn to speak positively with yourself.

At first, I could literally change wrists a few times in the space of 5 or 10 minutes.  I didn’t realize how often I would tell myself, internally, that I was just not enough…not good enough….not smart enough….not fast enough at this task or that….how absent-minded I was…and really let myself feel disappointed in myself.  I had always been such a positive person!

What I realized was that I was very positive speaking, but I was not authentically positive thinking!  I had a dear friend and mentor ask me one time: “if you are judging yourself so harshly, do you not think you are looking to others to live to those ideals too?  We learn to judge the world around us the way we judge ourselves.  If you expect perfection then others may feel that nothing but perfection from you is enough”.

Wow! I had never thought of this before.

As I practiced my bracelet meditation, I began to change my language with myself to be more neutral and non-judgemental.  My ‘Oh, I can’t believe you forgot that!’ became ‘Oh, I forgot.  I’ll remember next time’. This started to have implications on the outside too.  I could learn to grow in compassion for others as I allowed myself to have compassion for myself.  My expectations for myself were allowed to relax and become more gentle and caring…and realistic! I was really learning to have my words and encouragement of others, start from my inner dialogue which became positive and caring to myself.

I still wear my meditation bracelet every day.  It serves as a reminder to be mindful of my expectations and to speak kindly to myself.  I often roll the beads between my fingers when I am nervous and now it also serves to bring breath, calm, and peace, as a symbol that I need to be gentle with my words to myself and others. A few times a year, I choose to repeat my mindfulness steps in an effort to remind myself to care for me.  It serves as a great reminder that I always need to work on myself first!

Love Ingrid x

#loveiseverywhere  #loveisenough  #csfleak   #enough   #mindfulness

 

Chunking

I’m an educator in my ‘real’ life and the value of giving students the BIG picture and then chunking it into smaller, more manageable tasks, is a skill we impart in every aspect of learning.  As adults, we perhaps feel the need to just tackle the big project and be done with it.  Being ill means that we often feel useless because we can no longer do a huge task or take on a big commitment (and I’m talking about going out to do the shopping, coming home to unpack the groceries, and then making dinner).  That seems like a tremendously daunting task to me now…when months ago it was simply ‘I’ll go get dinner’.

I remember in my marathon running days, reading about the language used by runners and non-runners.  A runner says ‘I’ll go get ready for a run’…meaning, drive home, get dressed, and go for a run.  To the runner the task looks like a simple, 3-step process.  Easy-peasy! To the non-runner the same sentence ‘I’ll go get ready for a run’ looks like…pack up from work, lug my bags to the car, get in the car, haul my bags out, go upstairs, take off my work clothes, get my running gear on, find my shoes, put them on, go to the bathroom, tell my husband where I’m going, make sure the kids are entertained…..Oh…forget it!  That is just way too hard! You see…the non-runner sees 10 or more steps to the exact same task.

So is it the task that is daunting….or is it the thinking that makes it so? (Yes, that is a quick nod to Shakespeare…one of my favs)!

I have approached my ability to do tasks as a CSF leaker much in the same way.  I first try to minimize the number of steps I think the task will take.  I made these delicious Oatmeal Apple Crisp Cookie Cups the other day!  Yes, any CSF Leaker Peeps will think…what?! I really did make them.  And this is how….

My statement to myself was ‘I am going to make a LITTLE treat’.  (And I pushed aside all thoughts of ‘Oh my gosh, how am I possibly going to make anything….’).

I can be upright for a good solid 20-30 minutes at a time.  So, I RESEARCHED my recipe, and when I took the dishes down the night before, I SET OUT my mixing bowls and measuring cups for the NEXT day. (This also gave me a PURPOSE when I woke up)!

In the morning, I MIXED the ingredients for the oatmeal part of the recipe, popped them in the oven, and headed back to lie down in bed.  When the timer went off, I went downstairs to take them out of the oven to cool.  I took a three hour break.

Next, I went downstairs to PEEL AND CUT the apples…this was around 11 AM or so.  This took a long time but I just did what I could.  I was lucky enough that I could do all 6 apples at once before having to go back upstairs to rest.

Final stage, about three hours later again, I COOKED up the apples and poured the mixture onto the Oatmeal Cups and drizzled the caramel.

I admit, it took me all day to make one recipe that normally would take 45 minutes or so but my feeling of ACCOMPLISHMENT made all the difference to my outlook.

-I made SOMETHING WONDERFUL for my husband and I to enjoy.

-I made it manageable so I wouldn’t end up in tears.

-My husband did not have to do yet ANOTHER task or go out and buy something sweet.

-We got to enjoy the treats TOGETHER and share them with others when they came to visit.

It is not lost on me that this is a very small thing but I hope it is not lost on you, that it has had a very BIG impact on how I feel about being useful (even for just one day).

Most tasks can be broken down to manageable steps and a lot of gentle positive talk can get you through a fun task that otherwise might seem overwhelming.  I hope you will share your stories of success or any tips and tricks you have been able to learn along your journey too.

My hope for you today, is that you have one small victory that makes your heart feel 10 sizes bigger!

Love Ingrid x

#loveiseverywhere #positivetalk #love #somethingwonderful #csfleak