5 Morning Wishes To Start (or Restart) Your Day

Can you make Morning Wishes a part of your day?

I recently came up with a simple list of Morning Wishes that I could make when I am feeling particularly in need of feeling at peace with my day.

Recently, I woke up completely discombobulated.  I could tell I was not myself at all right from the moment my feet hit the floor.  I had been awakened many times during the night with my mind out of sorts.  Random thoughts were coming.  Bad dreams or at least the feeling of the leftovers of a bad dream.  Too hot in the night…and then, of course, too cold.  Dog sounds waking me.  A car racing in the night down the street.

When I awoke, I felt disgruntled and not well-rested.  I was grumpy.

It’s not as though I haven’t felt grumpy before in my life.  Very rare, though, for me though, is to feel this out of sorts upon waking.

I tried to lie back down and say my affirmations.  I was half-hearted…I admit.

I thought a glass of water would help.  I sat quietly on my own.  I slowly drank down the water and felt a little better…but I was agitated.

I spoke particularly carefully.  I was cheery…if you can’t be happy then fake it until you feel happy.

Out to the garden for some therapy.  Coffee in hand, I headed out to my urban sanctuary. My little piece of verdant heaven.  I sat, listening for bird song.  I breathed.  I sat.

Grumpy.

I asked myself to choose an activity that would help to bring me back to peace.

For some crazy reason, everything I chose was making me more irritated.  I tried blogging and ran into nothing but technical difficulties (4 hour delays to fix the problem kind of difficulties).  A craft activity that I was trying to finish went out the door so I headed to the craft store to work it out.  Got home with renewed excitement and dashed again.  On and on, all day long, I seemed to be blundering along at everything I tried.

Ugh! What a day!

I decided, for the next day to have a hope at getting off on the right track, I would write myself a list of 5 Morning Wishes to get my mind set on a better path.

5 Morning Wishes
5 Wishes

I hope they can help you too…if you are ever having the kind of day when you just wake up grumpy.

Love Ingrid x

The end of my day was much better….maybe just writing the list made all the difference.

 

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Wonder Women

Lunch With Friends

A couple of weeks ago, I met a group of women friends for lunch and let me tell you about how fabulous it made me feel.  I walked into the restaurant we had chosen. I was the first to arrive, so I thought I would go to the washroom after the drive. I emerged from the bathroom and I looked up and my heart made a fantastic flutter…

My Wonder Women are here!

My Wonder Women are a group of women that have kept me moving in the right direction all throughout my illness. These women are the ones who had my back.  They wrote me letters…countless letters and notes of encouragement.  They sent me text messages, positive messages, and kept me ‘in the loop’ about what was going on with them.  They knew, no matter how long it was going to take, how to keep me feeling grounded and still ‘a part of’ the greater whole.

These Wonder Women could not be more different, and yet, they share so much in common.  Together we can talk and talk…about everything and anything.  I can honestly say, I was not bored for one millionth of a millisecond (I’m not that good with minutia but I’m pretty sure that is a tiny fragment of time)! Our conversation went all over the place and was fun and loving and caring and funny.  We just never ran out of things to say. They are my biggest cheerleaders for my blog and I am so grateful for their kindness and encouragement.

There are quite a few of us, in our Wonder Women group.  On this particular day, there were five of us.  There was me, of course, who you are getting to know through this blog.  I was the one who asked for us to get together.  It was a kind of coming out party for me after spending a year in bed. So let me tell you about the others.

Wynona Wisdom

Wynona is a beacon of inspiration and motivation. She spurs everybody on to live their best life and offers ideas and creative ways to others for making life a little more manageable. She is like a beacon of hope for me and offers her light to any that need it. She sees my pain and has all the right words to honour it and to help in the healing process.  She allows me room to be.

Talula Heart

Talula has my back no matter what…I can tell her anything and she will never judge me. She cradles my soul like I am her most cherished possession. She is my soul-sister in so many ways and she has an understanding of me that grows in every direction along with me. She is a rock for me.  She has so much love to give you can feel it filling up all the way to your finger tips.  She is a force of spiritual energy and she is the calm in the middle of a deep breath in.  Talula means business and she cares deeply about the people in her life.  I am so grateful that I am one of them.

Emilia Sunshine

Emilia is a constant source of gratitude…she reminds me weekly on her Gratituesday posts. She has consistently sent me letters and personalized postcards of her incredible photography over the course of this past year and I cherish each one.  I reread them often to hear her voice in my head.  Her words sink deep in to fill me up so nothing bad can sneak in.  Just when I find that I am feeling vulnerable, I squeal with delight as the mailbox is filled with another note.   She is truthful and vulnerable herself.  That makes us close. It makes our friendship easy. She too has so much love to give me and I am so deeply moved by that.  I protect it so it can warm me in those precious moments.

Dakota True

Dakota is a reminder to myself always to be tender. She is a vulnerable soul who needs tending herself and yet she reaches out to me to let me know I am OK and that what I am feeling is real. She speaks to me of my truth through her own truths as well. She has a quiet, steady caring that sweeps across you like a summer breeze.  Before you know it, you’re completely wrapped up in her love and compassion.  She definitely gives the best hugs of all of us.  She means it when she hugs…it’s like her life depends on it…and it probably does.
If you have a group of sister-friends who can fill you up…I cannot tell you how much you need them…always.

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What a delightful time we had together! Any time spent together would have been too short but honestly, it was simply the best time I have had in a very, very long time. My wonder-women filled me right up to the brim until I was spilling over with love.
Life and love are truly SOMETHING WONDERFUL!
Love Ingrid x

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“If you have a group of sister-friends who can fill you up…I cannot tell you how much you need them…always”.

 

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Those Friends…

You know you have those special people around you…or at least…I really hope you have some of those people around you who just ‘get it’.  You don’t need to spend your entire time hashing through all the details of your illness and you don’t have to pour on the smiles to pretend you’re better than you are…they just get it!

I had a friend come over today and I have to tell you, I knew before she even came in, that things were going to be super.  I have known her for some time, but we haven’t had the chance to see each other in a while.  Yet, I still knew that we might chat for a couple of minutes about my CSF leak and then we could move on.

Well…it was even better than that….

We didn’t talk about my illness until just before she left and it was short and sweet and detailed enough to get the picture and brief enough to know we could move past it to another topic.  Our visit was all about us and our stage in life, and our power and strength and courage, and our wisdom, and our feelings and our fear and apprehension, and then just blissful meanderings of all things great and wonderful.

Life is so good when you can just be so filled up by a wonderful sharing and caring conversation.

Blessings come to me every day….this one was my SOMETHING WONDERFUL to last me quite a few days, I think.

Love Ingrid x

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6 Steps to Becoming Enough

I wear beaded bracelets most of the time.  I particularly love ones made of natural beads, there is something tangible for me of connecting to the elements that comes with bracelets made of lava rock or rose quartz. I first fell in love with these bracelets when I would visit temples in Japan.  I lived there for close to 15 years and visited many temples in my travels.

When I began to study Yoga, too, I found that I was attracted to beads, malas, and bracelets for the purpose of meditation.  I could quietly roll the beads between my fingers when I wanted to bring my thoughts back to centre.  When I felt uncomfortable with my environment, I could think back to my feelings of calm and peace by tapping into the various beads on my bracelet.

I learned, during a workshop on mindfulness, that you can make a practice of positive self-talk by using a bracelet.

This is how it goes:

  1. Place a bracelet on your wrist.
  2. When you hear your inner voice using negative self-talk, when you hear yourself berating a mistake you have made, you move the bracelet to a different hand.
  3. Each time you have a thought that is harming to yourself, you move the bracelet becoming aware of the thought that brought you to move the item.
  4. The first few days, you just let it naturally happen, and mentally take note of the number of times you have to change hands.
  5. Once you are in the habit of this, you make a conscious effort to change the inner language that you use so that you are changing the bracelet fewer and fewer times a day.
  6. Your goal, of course, is to eventually leave the bracelet alone as you learn to speak positively with yourself.

At first, I could literally change wrists a few times in the space of 5 or 10 minutes.  I didn’t realize how often I would tell myself, internally, that I was just not enough…not good enough….not smart enough….not fast enough at this task or that….how absent-minded I was…and really let myself feel disappointed in myself.  I had always been such a positive person!

What I realized was that I was very positive speaking, but I was not authentically positive thinking!  I had a dear friend and mentor ask me one time: “if you are judging yourself so harshly, do you not think you are looking to others to live to those ideals too?  We learn to judge the world around us the way we judge ourselves.  If you expect perfection then others may feel that nothing but perfection from you is enough”.

Wow! I had never thought of this before.

As I practiced my bracelet meditation, I began to change my language with myself to be more neutral and non-judgemental.  My ‘Oh, I can’t believe you forgot that!’ became ‘Oh, I forgot.  I’ll remember next time’. This started to have implications on the outside too.  I could learn to grow in compassion for others as I allowed myself to have compassion for myself.  My expectations for myself were allowed to relax and become more gentle and caring…and realistic! I was really learning to have my words and encouragement of others, start from my inner dialogue which became positive and caring to myself.

I still wear my meditation bracelet every day.  It serves as a reminder to be mindful of my expectations and to speak kindly to myself.  I often roll the beads between my fingers when I am nervous and now it also serves to bring breath, calm, and peace, as a symbol that I need to be gentle with my words to myself and others. A few times a year, I choose to repeat my mindfulness steps in an effort to remind myself to care for me.  It serves as a great reminder that I always need to work on myself first!

Love Ingrid x

#loveiseverywhere  #loveisenough  #csfleak   #enough   #mindfulness